Blending Families: Merging Households with Kids 8-18
My own blended family journey began when my mother, Fredi married Howard Stevenson 25 years ago. My mom brought 4 daughters ages 32-22 years old to the marriage while Howard brought 3 sons ages 22-16. The typical comment we hear is still “It sounds like the Brady Bunch!”
Trevor recently guest hosted on the popular radio show What Women Want, speaking on topics that women want to hear!
What Women Want encourages women OF ALL AGES to come and listen to inspiring, FUN and educational talk radio with celebrities and internationally recognized guests and experts. We are on the air live every Wednesday evening.
Sari Cooper and Trevor Crow discuss low desire for women in their 40’s and 50’s, sex in a long term relationship. How to keep it hot. How to feel good about yourself if you are in a new relationship.
A fresh, informative and sometimes hilarious take on modern romance for everyone
Hosted by Trevor Crow and Jill Fitzburgh
Special guest: Sari Cooper, Certiﬁed Sex Therapist & Relationship
Expert seen on CBS This Morning and The Dr. Oz Show
And Dr. Ellen Mahony
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Eﬀective local matchmakers… Great headshot and proﬁle advice… Style updates for
men and women… How to rev up your long term relationship
Tuesday, May 19th
The Delamar Hotel Southport
275 Old Post Road, Southport, CT
(Show begins promptly at 6:15 pm)
Fabulous Door Prizes… Light Fare… Cash Bar… Friends… Networking…
Tickets $25 in advance/$30 at the door For more information contact:
A portion of the proceeds will beneﬁt the CT Challenge,
empowering cancer survivors.
Learn the key things to happily Blending Families, connecting and finding secure emotional bonds in the new family system.
Thoughts on closeness, emotional bonding and sex. Does connection extinguish great sex? Take a look!
Rather than repeat the same fight again and again, identify what your attachment style is. Do you fight for connection? Do you get angry, blame or criticize your partner? If so you pursue for connection. Your behaviors may cause your partner to withdraw. If you are a withdrawer, you tend to quiet down, worry that if you say one more thing, you will only make your partner more angry. When you know your style, you can make change.
Yes we all know the story: evil step mom does her best to foil the success of her beautiful stepdaughter, pushing her own daughters ahead. We all know the story and yes, there is another star-studded movie version in theatres this weekend.
Then the fairy godmother swoops in, rescues the beautiful Cinderella and saves the day with her kindness and excellentvstyling capabilities.
As a stepmom and occasional fairy godmother, in all honesty the real step mom, (there are lots of us out there), are both Fairy Godmother and Evil Stepmother combined. We are ying and yang. We like every person have both dark and light aspects of our emotions.
If each of us stepmoms is truly honest with ourselves, there are moments when we feel jealousy, pettiness and a tinge of anger towards our step kids. Our stepkids smell differently than our own do, there are times when we can’t and should not discipline them. And yes, moments when our partner pays more attention, or supports the stepchild over, and that burns! And yes, we would like to and hopefully don’t act out on our anger and jealousy.
The best action we can take is to speak of our jealousy and anger to our partner, own it and have compassion for our feelings. When have the courage to speak our truth, and our partner understands and helps us through our shame and hurt, we can heal and do better next time.
And, like me, most of you stepmoms out there have had your fairy godmother moments too. You have dropped everything and helped your stepdaughter dress for prom. You have moved mountains to help her get what she needed for her school work, her camp, her summer job, her physical wellbeing.
Yes, we stepmoms are curious, complex creatures with petty, jealous and deep love for our stepchildren. In the end the loving stepfamily can support, grow and develop secure, safe and caring kids. It takes a team, a compassionate and secure partnership.
What do you think? Do we have to choose between emotional connection and hot intercourse?
This tricky question comes up in couple’s therapy often. Is it possible to have both at once or are they diametrically opposed?
Check out my most recent article, published on Digital Romance, here.
Check out an exerpt of Chris Nesi’s article recently published in Primer Magazine featuring Trevor.
If you had to guess what caused the most strife for married couples, what would you say? Sex? Spending enough time together? Growing apart? Leaving the toilet seat up? It may not surprise you to learn that it is indeed all about the Benjamins.
According to a recent national survey by Money magazine, 70 percent of married couples fight about money, topping “household chores, togetherness, sex, snoring, and what’s for dinner” as topics of argument.
Money problems can rear their ugly head in a multitude of ways. Is one of you thrifty and the other can’t resist a deal? Does one of you have debt and the other doesn’t? When is it a good time to start talking about joint accounts? Should you be thinking about a pre-nup?
Read the full article here.