Pursuers and Withdrawers

Rather than repeat the same fight again and again, identify what your attachment style is. Do you fight for connection? Do you get angry, blame or criticize your partner? If so you pursue for connection. Your behaviors may cause your partner to withdraw. If you are a withdrawer, you tend to quiet down, worry that if you say one more thing, you will only make your partner more angry. When you know your style, you can make change.